Today I’m off to do something I haven’t done in years – probably over 5 years to be exact.  I’m meeting with a couple to talk about my doing their pre-martial counselling.  Actually counselling is to strong a word – I prefer to think of myself as a guide to allow them to know each other better and to begin the real dialogue which will last them many years.

The odds of course are not with them.  Marriage is a risky matter and the statistics tell us that many people doe’t do so well in it or at it. However, with some hard work and a commitment to each other marriage can be one of God’s great gifts.  So in my opinion the risk is worth taking for the reward.

When we enter marriage we think of it as a 50/50 arrangement – I think that’s a dangerous presumption.  Can I expect to get that much?  How about this kind of thinking – let’s call it a 100/0 surrender – I will give my all with no expectation.  What do you think I’ll get back?

Relationships are the key to happiness – whether in marriage or in the larger family or with good friends.  Relationships take work – and leaving them unattended will guarantee their demise.

So pray for them – pray for all work at relationships.


When something is missing in your life, it usually turns out to be someone.  ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com