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How do you define love

Here’s Wendy – my love – my partner in life. I’ve refrained from calling her my best friend for she’s so much more. So much more than someone I simply want to spend time with, or someone that I like being with. No, our marriage has illustrated to me the deepest examples of commitment, of service and of partnership. It is rooted in selfless love.

I have a friend who has a daughter. His fear, for her, growing up was about who she would marry. I’m not sure what his fear was based on, but I heard him say many times that he would tell his daughter to beware of boys who told her they were falling in love with her. His rationale was, if they could fall IN love, they could fall OUT of love. I suppose he’s right. He could have a different lens from me with two boys.

He told me in the years following that he felt he made a mistake for his daughter seemed to be afraid of or resistant to being serious with boys – eventually young men.

Now she’s married a wonderful man and they are happily married, but I get his point. Maybe he scared her – maybe he didn’t.

What he did outline for her and I would agree with, is that love can’t be simply attached to how we feel, how we are satisfied or not in a marriage of emotion. No, love must be about what I am prepared to give to a relationship – I am convinced that this is first and foremost. I’ve written about this a bit in the past and always return to this video below. It’s quite self-explanatory but I will add this, that Dr. McQuilken was a very successful academic leader, highly respected and sought after.

I think his resignation speech is one of the best illustrations of human love – and perhaps human love that is rooted in Christ-like love.

 

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A divisive leader means a divided country

I really don’t often make political comments here, nor do I think commenting on another country’s political leader is what I should do. However, this past week has put me in the position where I think I want to, need to, make some comment.

I’ve watched the political landscape of the USA for the past couple of years making some comment to my sister who lives in Florida, and felt that it was akin to watching a train wreck as it happened. It was as if you could see two trains on the same track gaining speed as they hurtled down the track towards each other fully aware that the only likely outcome was death, destruction, and mayhem.

This has it seems to me to have been the Republican and Democratic parties.

The winner, and it’s hard to use that word in this situation was Donald J. Trump. The Trump name, of course, has been well known but not always for things that are less than honourable, and his grandfather who really gave the family their means did so with booze and brothels in Canada’s north.

We are now past 200 days or almost 2/3 of the first year under his belt and we have an increasingly divided neighbour. He has managed to encourage white supremists, frightened so many people that now hundreds flood north across our border everyday, and placed the USA in a position of conflict with many nations. The President is mocked by other world leaders and if that wasn’t enough, he has managed to leave almost 4000 positions unfilled in the government support personnel that really do get the work done every day.

I think the thing which frightens me most is his inability to unite and his posture of conflict and division. I don’t know of another leader that thinks that this is a good trait and one that should be maintained. If the country continues down this road you can expect more civil unrest, more injury and death, more political gridlock and more instability. This is a recipe for disaster in the broadest of terms.

So what’s our response – perhaps I might say, what’s my response. First of all I think I need to pray for this country, and for the leaders around him. Secondly, I need to be onguard for similar strains of division drifting across the border. Thirdly, where I see division I need to lovingly speak out against it. Fourth, I need to examine the people who run for political office here and examine closely their personal positions as well as their party’s position.

Maybe you have an idea too – if you do feel free to leave a comment.

Thanks – and be kind to other people today.dbc29-20100827_4039