After 22, almost 23 years Mom decided it was time to leave the condo and head to a retirement residence nearer family. The condo went on the market, the applications for the residence were accepted, the movers were booked, and in my Mom’s words “that all happened rather quickly!” Yes, indeed it did. What a great job Mom did getting herself ready and getting to the day of the move.
I don’t often make a reference to a business or make a recommendation but in this case, I think it is fair to say that “Two Men and a Truck” were gracious, careful, kind, accommodating and reasonable in cost. It turned out to be a tiresome but rewarding day.
By the time the move day was over, we had gone from the chasos of a condo being packed and moved to the residence with furniture set up, bedroom ready for the evening and probably 70% of things in their place.
It is great to have her closer and even last evening we were able to just “pop over”! It was a treat. So now a new chapter begins.
As we were getting ready to leave the condo, we paused for prayer and I thanked God for the way He has blessed my Mom, and through her, us as a family. I am constantly surprised by the way in which God provides despite our humanity, but then Jesus came in human flesh to demonstrate his great love. That love has accompanied my Mom all these years.
Here’s Wendy – my love – my partner in life. I’ve refrained from calling her my best friend for she’s so much more. So much more than someone I simply want to spend time with, or someone that I like being with. No, our marriage has illustrated to me the deepest examples of commitment, of service and of partnership. It is rooted in selfless love.
I have a friend who has a daughter. His fear, for her, growing up was about who she would marry. I’m not sure what his fear was based on, but I heard him say many times that he would tell his daughter to beware of boys who told her they were falling in love with her. His rationale was, if they could fall IN love, they could fall OUT of love. I suppose he’s right. He could have a different lens from me with two boys.
He told me in the years following that he felt he made a mistake for his daughter seemed to be afraid of or resistant to being serious with boys – eventually young men.
Now she’s married a wonderful man and they are happily married, but I get his point. Maybe he scared her – maybe he didn’t.
What he did outline for her and I would agree with, is that love can’t be simply attached to how we feel, how we are satisfied or not in a marriage of emotion. No, love must be about what I am prepared to give to a relationship – I am convinced that this is first and foremost. I’ve written about this a bit in the past and always return to this video below. It’s quite self-explanatory but I will add this, that Dr. McQuilken was a very successful academic leader, highly respected and sought after.
I think his resignation speech is one of the best illustrations of human love – and perhaps human love that is rooted in Christ-like love.
Who knew that when we welcomed Jason and then Philip into our home as newborns what the journey would look like. Apart from the good Lord, we certainly had no idea. From diaper rash, cut lips, bruised legs, hurt feelings and the occasional rash of anger or upset, there have been lots of challenges. Once the boys met wonderful young ladies in Susan and Amanda, it seemed like their launch into adulthood was coming full circle and they would head out to be families on their own and we would observe from the edges and be glad we were dealing with some of those issues over again.
The truth of the matter is, however, that new worries and concerns replace the old ones. Parenthood seems is not for the faint of heart. In fact with two boys becoming four young adults and then two families with children growing quickly, there are additional demands on the heart of the loving parent.
Don’t mistake my comment to imply that parenthood is a burden – it is far from that. There is so much joy on the journey – so much love to be celebrated that it could never be called a burden. But there are dynamics in life that mean we worry about our kids and grandkids, which is natural – isn’t it?
So below are a few pictures that remind us how things change over time and represent the growing nature of our family. We love Jason and Susan, Phil and Amanda and all the grandchildren – Rachel, Ted, Beth, Carlyle and Fitz! And we look forward to what God will do in their lives in the years to come.
Daughters in love
Phil and his Mom
Susan in Edmonton
Pine Lake AB