February 3, 1979 captured on film and in our memories forever! I should never forget this day – first of all we were getting married. Second, it was an unusually mild day (I was in short sleeves in the morning). Third, Montreal Canadiens were playing Toronto Maple Leafts (no I didn’t watch the game) and lastly, our entire family were with us for the day!

The album of our wedding pictures sits in our living room and yes, from time to time I pull it out and go through the pictures. I remember everyone – and though some have gone to be with The Lord, each is in our memory.

Wendy and I were delighted – and we kept talking about how we were committed to growing old together, to being always in love, to being kind and gracious, to keeping no secrets, and to staying close to one another.

Eventually we became four and the boys took up our attention and energy. Young parents know all about the energy! It is tiring but rewarding to raise children.

As we journeyed together I began to think that this whole 50/50 thing in marriage is not true. I didn’t promise for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health…if I get 50% benefit. I said I would set everyone, and frankly everything else aside and give 100%. And that’s what we have done with each other, over and over. And that’s how you get to grow old together.

We do have friends who seem to negotiate everything… “if you do this then I’ll do that”. Yeah, not for us. One bank account because we’re marriage not a business. One bed because I can’t sleep well without her. One house because that’s all we need – and can afford. (HaHa).

This is Wendy’s Grandpa and Grandma – the Redbournes. They were so kind – welcomed me like a grandson, looked out for us, encouraged us and fed us well. They were very excited about our going into ministry and Grandma made us a large SA flag which we still have. (Philip says, of course you do).

So, happy anniversary to us. And thank you Wendy for your love, loyalty, kindness, encouragement, joy, sense of humour and patience! We ARE growing old together and I look forward to many many more years, God willing.